Is a second marriage a good answer to a blissful life after divorce? Probably not.The history of second, third and even fourth marriages is not that encouraging. Broadly speaking the likelihood of divorce increases with the number of times you have been married. This would suggest that instead of going up the learning curve couples are moving rather rapidly down it. Why would this be? First marriages This is a recipe for a second divorce if the fist marriage was affected by issues around drugs, alcohol or domestic violence . The best advice is to seek some counselling or professional advice to help prevent repeating the mistakes of the past. Children and second marriages A new step-parent, to most children, is close to the last thing they want in their lives. Blending families can often work well but the need to fight over turf and attention can often make the blend less than smooth and often decidedly lumpy. Step parents should never attempt to usurp the role of the biological parent. This is probably the biggest single family based cause of second marriage failure. Making a new life after the second divorce is not going to be any easier than it was the first time round. The sheer logistics of managing a new relationship with his and her children can throw domestic routines into turmoil. When there are children born of a new marriage, and there are already step-children, this complicates things further. Some sacrifices may have to be made by you and everybody's children as you cannot do everything for everybody all the time. Careful and sympathetic planning should be able to resolve these difficulties. Money can cause mayhem |