How to create a better mother daughter relationship during and after divorce
In a divorce all of the complex relationships which surround the central relationship of the marriage come under great strain. The breaking of that central relationship will cause a considerable amount of collateral damage.
Divorce is not just a matter between the couple but will have a serious impact upon the complex web of interrelationships between family and friends.
A very precious relationship
Don't treat your daughter like your best friend or confidant
This is never ever a good idea. It's bad enough that the divorce is happening at all. Children of all ages should be given a simple and objective explanation and then all the love and support both parents can muster to help them adjust to their new lives. Sharing the intimate details of a disintegrating relationship puts a grossly unfair burden on your daughter. She is not your best friend and trying to create that relationship will be confusing and distressing for her.
Perhaps even worse is using personal revelations to justify the divorce from your perspective. Children find it hard enough to imagine their parents having sex and they certainly don't want to hear about the emotional and sexual anatomy of their parent's marriage. They just can't handle it and if made to do so the relationships with your daughters could be soured for life.
Encourage her to spend time with her father