Some good advice to help you do the best for your children in their life after divorce. Part One
The only people who are truly innocent and blameless in a divorce are your children. The quality of their life after divorce is even more important than yours. Their wellbeing must be your highest priority.
It's very easy to be so preoccupied with the challenges and uncertainties you are now facing that your children's quality of life does not receive the priority it deserves. Here is some advice and guidance to help make things easier to give your children the life after divorce they deserve. The advice is framed as a bunch of guidelines which you might want to treat as a set of actual rules to which both you and your ex spouse could formally agree.
We will treat each other with respect at all times
Common decency and basic respect is the only acceptable principle to follow when working with or talking with the other parent. After all you once loved each other and created children together. That at least demands some continuing respect. Anything less than that will greatly reduce your children's chances of a stable and happy future. It can also have a long term negative emotional impact on their relationships with you and with others for the rest of their lives.
We will not use derogatory terms when communicating with each other
We agree to set our children's needs above our own our needs for territory and independence
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