Our whole life is a series of interconnected relationships. Parent/child and wife/husband are probably the most important ones and our personal relationships the most difficult.
The nature of all of these relationships is constantly evolving. The relationship between a parent and a toddler is very different to that between a parent and a teenager. This evolution happens gradually and is a natural outcome of the passage of time.Divorce is different
It certainly is, it's sudden, traumatic and life changing. It hits you like a truck. The best way to avoid this trauma is to understand how to listen out for that truck coming down the road. There can often be distant rumblings early in the relationship. At this stage it's hard to tell how far away the truck is and at what speed it is approaching. To avoid the truck smashing into you here is some advice to help keep your relationship clear of a bloody, expensive and potentially life threatening motorway smash.
Get some counselling - now
They are good, have been doing it for years and have lots of experience. However, a word of caution, their best counsellers are fantastic but the odd one or two are no better than talking to your milkman or the cheerful checkout lady at Asda. So if you're not happy with your counseller then speak to them and explain that things are not working out and you want to work with someone else. They will understand.
An important early sign
Stage Two - the truck is getting closer
Stage Three - The truck is metres away and the brakes don't work